Finding the Right Career for You: The Solution is Most Likely Not What You Expected

How have you gone about finding the right career? Have you talked to a high school counselor? Maybe you've gone to a college, even, and sought counseling there. Or maybe you've consulted family, friends, or you've decided on the proper career. If you've done any or all of the above, just how confident are you in your decision. If you're like most, not too confident.

But what's interesting here is that so many leave it up to chance or a whim as to what they'll do with the rest of their life to not only bring in the money to survive but to select a career that will bring fulfillment. And it's not entirely the fault of the individual. There are few and far between systems that are objective, thorough and well thought out enough to help people in the long run.

So how can you make a decision that you will know is the right one beyond a shadow of a doubt?

Well, the answer has to come from the source, doesn't it? It needs to come from within. However, the problem is that the majority of people don't know how to do this or feel it's not possible so they go to supposed "experts" to find the answer. But what's this like? Well, in most cases, you sit there and listen as a counselor or therapist dispenses the "correct knowledge." Then, you take it in, go home and apply their "decision" with little or insufficient self-reflection. Or, worse yet, you take a test that tells you what you should be doing for the rest of your life. If you're comfortable with a piece of paper telling you what to do in this regards, so be it. However, most are not if they ponder thruthfully over a long enough period of time.

So, what's a poor person trying to discover how to choose a career or one who's working hard at finding the right career supposed to do?

You go to someone who knows how to work the answers out of you.

What's that you say? Yes, there's no job personality test or employment personality test that can get to the answers like a real human being can. But this person, or coach, is not there to "tell" but rather to "listen." The career coach, success coach, or life coach is one who works as an equal in a co-active environment using open-ended questions (those that do not lead or judge in any way) to pull from the client deep ceded answers that may have been lying dormant for years if not decades.

It is the coach's responsibility to listen intuitively to the answers given not to judge or even necessarily to guide but to determine where to go next as the client discovers for himself / herself answers that appear quite familiar but have lied dormant for many a year.Or they have been buried by doubt or need to appease those who tell them that their dreams and desires are not "sufficient."

For example, a former student of mine (I also teach composition / writing) approached me one day and said, "You know, when I try to write this assignment, I can't do it with an objective voice. For some reason, my writing always comes out subjective or personal. Why's that?" I said, "Well, either you've got a problem you want to solve or you're a writer." She looked up in amazement saying, "You know, that's always been my first love, writing. But I've put it on the back burner and I think I've suffered because of it." We talked a little bit more and she soon came to the conclusion for herself that she better get back to writing or the consequences may get worse.

This is the key. The answers lie within. No one's going to tell you better than you what you need to do with your life. However, it's more complex than that. It takes some focused effort and assistance to pull out the answers. You need to go into detail the various areas of your life (career, family, health, finances, etc.) and discover what's important to you and then match this with your specific talents, abilities, desires, and gifts.

But the work is not done. Once you discover what it is that you want to do with your life, that which is going to set your life on fire, then you need to develop a plan and stick to it. And in the process you will have to overcome character flaws that we all have that can sabotage a career quicker than you can say "success" while at the same time learning critical success principles that will help you pull it all together.

If you're ready and are serious about making the most of your life and finding that path that is truly you, one that you can get excited to wake up to every morning, then you owe it to yourself to set sail on that path today.

Here's to your success.